I've been a "mom" for 3 months and 10 days to be exact and it's been an absolute whirlwind. Some moments feel as if I was pregnant yesterday, and other moments feel like the day has been as long as a year ;) Becoming a mom is an incredible blessing. I met a woman the other day(a true New Yorker in the best ways possible) and she kept on saying in her thick, thick Long Island accent..."God Bless 'em, look at 'em, he's a miracle, such a miracle." She couldn't have been more spot on. You understand motherhood and moms the moment you have a baby, it's a silent nod in the grocery or a look on someones face as you're walking down the street. It's an amazing club, and I'm proud and blessed to be a member. So here's Mr. Graham's birth story.
So I hit week 39 and was begining to have Braxton Hicks pretty frequently. I was one who didn't have any BH until the very, very end. I was so worried I wouldn't know I was in labor and everyone told me, "oh you'll know." So early am on Sunday I woke Rob up and said "I think this is it." We began timing contractions and they were very managable and lasting about a minute and coming every 5 min or so. I really wasn't in much pain at all and was able to have a clear conversation. We had gone ahead and called our parents to let them know we thought I was in labor. Fast forward a few hours and the contractions had pretty much stopped and were not consistent at all. Meanwhile my mom and Rob's parents are in flight up to Chicago. I felt horrible, and couldn't believe I was that "false labor girl."
We ordered spicy Mexican food that night in hopes it would get things going. Around 9pm I told my mom I just felt horrible, something wasn't right within my body. We proceeded to go to bed and I woke up around 1am in pain. I didn't wake Rob or my mom and came out to living room to just sit for a bit and begin to time the contractions. About 30min later I was not able to reach my phone(it was right beside me) to press start on the contraction timing app. At this point I woke Rob up and told him this was the real deal. We called the Dr. on call, who said I could go in if I wanted too but it may be a little early. I waited 5 min after that conversation and told Rob I had to go now, I couldn't stand the pain.
We checked in around 2:30 am to triage at Prentice. The sweet check in lady looked at me as I'm squatting on the ground and said "you're doing great." haha, needless to say I was in a lot of pain. They hooked me up and examined me and said I was 4.5/5 cm dilated and she would let the Dr. on call know so they could admit me. Her next question was, "when do you want your epidural?" to which I replied "IMMEDIATELY." How people do this naturally in beyond me, more power to them.
We were rolled up to the delivery floor around 3:30am, they immediately hooked me up to fluids and penacilin(I tested positive for Strep B). The Dr. came in to give the epidural at 4am, and he was amazing, but not as amazing as the epidural!
My doctor happened to be on call that day, so she came in at 7am and checked my progress. I was around 8/8.5 cm dilated. I had progressed pretty quickly without the use of pitocin, and she said she would be back at 9am to check me, and we would probably be ready to push.
Rob and I tried to sleep throughout this time, but emotions and nerves are running at a high, and it just wasn't possible. My doctor came back in a little after 9 to check again, and I was at 10cm and ready to push. She said we were going to do a few practice pushes, and during these 3 practice pushes she and Rob could see the head. She quickly paged the nurses to get in the room to get the delivery table ready. She went to change into scrubs and came back around 9:20. In the meantime my mom had come in to wish me good luck, and my emotions had taken over, I was just crying/smiling...this was really happening and it hit me like a ton of bricks. I was SO LUCKY and pushed through 4 contractions, and Graham popped right out, I think I pushed for 7 min.
Graham came out angled towards Rob and he quickly screamed "it's a boy!!!!" We both laughed/cried in amazement, it's such an incredible moment. Honestly I was in absolute shock. You know you've had a baby growing in your stomach for the last 9 months, but in a second it's all real and everything you've ever known to be normal has changed, and your world will never be the same. Words really can't do the experience and moment justice. You know what love is when you have a baby, you finally "get it."